Hello peeps! First, I like to apologize for being quiet quite somewhile. So, here is latest update:-
#1: Try out new hobby ---> Hello cupcakes!
So, here is the result... taarrraaaa.... Emm, can start biz or not? BTW, I found tis hobby really fun and challenging... i can see fast result or feedback which motivate me keep improving the skills and achieving job satisfaction! It is amazing that i dun feel tired at all eventhough stay-up til late night experimenting! (Usually 10.30pm z z z z already). But I guess my hubby sure very tired and tension look the messed in the kicthen due to the wife craziness towards her new hobby... am sorry dear, I just want to explore all possibility! And thank you very much for ur willingness/or by force to be my experiment's victim! ; p
#2: Gubahan hantaran for Im (my technician)
Well, she requested me to do gubahan hantaran for both side, bride and the bridegroom. Basically, she didn't limit myself to choose the theme, so i choose light yellow + silver grey for bride side and pink fuchsia tone for the groom side. Here I share some photo...
#3: Attend effective presentation skills @ work
Last minute boss request to attend this training. Kind of no prep, so i tot it is like normal training. So, I enter the training room with courage because tis training actually for managers but due to few seat unattended, they invited me to sit in. Guess what, each of participant need to prepare 3 mins presentation and they will record our presentation (so called pre-performance). Suddenly my throat runout of water and my palms start to feel cold and sweating. Nooooo! I dun want! My heart shouting. Unfortunately, there is no way out.
Time running fast before i realize, opps! it is my turn. Oh my! My leg and hand is shaking, what shd i do. So, I stand in front of the audience and camera and try to relax and so i begin the presentation; reading the text in my hand, talk as fast as nobody can catch, my shoulder almost touch the floor... Well, I hated and terrified of public speaking! (especially when I’m around a group of people I’m not familiar with and talk something that not my expertist ---> basically i'm not spontaneous peeps! I’ve read that it’s a pretty common feature in people and that almost everyone (except for extremely charismatic people) really suffer when they have to do presentations in front of live audiences). So, how to get over the fear? Here is some tips i learn during training:-
1. Just breathe- Take slow, deep breathes. Yes, you heard me. Breathe slowly and deeply before you make your presentation. Take one more deep breathe before you get up to speak. Try it, I promise it works.
2. Practice makes perfect- I can't emphasize enough how important speech preparation is. Practice, practice, practice. Many people procrastinate and don't prepare ahead of time, which enhances their fear. In fact, procrastination is a way of reinforcing a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't prepare and fail, you have reinforced your belief that you are not a good public speaker. Change that attitude and it will have a positive impact on your public speaking skills.
3. Set realistic goals-We know that practice makes perfect, but the good news is you don't have to be. Part of the reason you are so tense and nervous is that you have set unrealistic goals for yourself. You think if you make one mistake, you will crash and burn. You think you have to be perfect and nothing could be further from the truth. If you make a mistake, move forward. Chances are the audience won't notice, unless you point it out.
4. A little anxiety is a good thing- Ask any athlete you know and they will tell you that anxiety is a good thing. That adrenaline you feel before the big game enhances your performance. The same is true in public speaking. In sports they call it getting "psyched." Well, think of your speech in the same way. You should be excited, or "psyched" about the opportunity to speak. Use that adrenaline rush to enhance your performance. It works. Your speech will be infused with your enthusiasm and the audience will benefit from the results. In other words, don't try to get rid of those butterflies in your stomach....just teach them to fly in formation.
5. Visualize success-Visualization works. Pat Riley, the NBA championship coach, had his team practice shooting free throws under two different circumstances. One group practiced shooting free throws in the gym and the other group sat in a room and visualized successfully making free throw shots. When the group reconvened and shot free throws together, guess who performed better? The group who had practiced visualization. Again, you have nothing to use. Once you've written your speech and you know the venue, imagine yourself giving an outstanding presentation.
6. Focus on your message- Have you ever felt so strongly about something that you couldn't remain silent? Consider that feeling when you think about public speaking. Make your message more important than your fear. Yes, you are afraid, but what you have to say is so important that it supercedes your fear.
7. The audience won't notice your fear - Sweaty palms or shaking hands are external symptoms of your fear of public speaking. You are internally terrified and it is starting to make you shake and sweat. You want to run out of the room so the audience won't see how terrified you are, This experience is often referred to as the "fear and flight" syndrome. Instead of running, you stand your ground. Know that unless you point out your physical symptoms of fear, your audience will never notice.
In closing, dun ask me how much this tips influent/improve my fear! But for sure I will seek opportunity to speak. The more I practice, the more I will overcome your fear and so you do.
